How to tell family not to bring their dogs to visit?

by tracie
(Zanesville, Ohio)

Invited brother, wife and daughter to stay at my Home for a graduation party at our home for my daughter and they did not ask but told me they were bringing their 2 inside dogs with them. How do I tell them I do not want them at my house? The sister-in-law is very difficult to get along with.


Sep 11, 2011
Also think about them though....
by: Anonymous

I'm not saying this is the case, but my husband and I can't have children and our two dogs are the closest thing we have. Ours are non-allergenic (so I realize that's different), but we don't go anywhere without them. They are like our babies. Whether or not you agree that dogs shouldn't be treated like humans, you have to see the relationship through the eyes of the people in that relationship. I mean, asking me not to bring my dogs would be like asking me not to bring my children and I wouldn't go anywhere overnight where my children/dogs weren't welcome.


Apr 21, 2011
Family and Dog Guests
by: Wendy (Modern Manners and Etiquette)

Thank you for your question.
This type of question seems to be quite popular right now.

This same situation happened to us just recently. My brother-in-law's family came from out of town, with their dog. It almost felt wrong for us to not let the dog come in too. Unfortunately, we are all allergic to dogs and it was not a fun time for us.

Even though your sister-in-law may be difficult, you need to be firm by telling them that they are invited, but the dogs are not.

If they insist on bringing them, you could research and offer them a couple of places that they could kennel the dogs. Ask them if there is anyone they know who wouldn't mind watching the dogs for them while they are visiting.

You have your reasons for not having dogs. You do not need to make concessions for other people's dogs.