If I was not invited to the wedding and now am invited to the baby shower, why?

by Bear
(Chesterfield MO)

Know the person for 9 years and have gone through 4 kids getting married. Known 2 of the kids and have been around for conversations of the wedding etc. Never invited.

1 of the 2 is pregnant with twins; to which I have, and have been invited to her baby shower.

Should I go? Haven't spoken with the mother in over 10 months and received the invitation.

Sounds like more presents to me!


Aug 11, 2011
Baby Shower Invite
by: Wendy (Modern Manners and Etiquette)

Thank you for your question.

Unfortunately we do not always know the circumstances that surround invitations or non-invitations to important events. The only thing we can control is the way that we handle the situation.

Sometimes wedding guest lists are shortened for a reason. Money and size of venues are the most common cause of a smaller guest list. This makes is hard for people who want to share in the event, however they cannot.

I am sorry you haven't spoken to your friend in 10 months. I have to wonder if the baby shower isn't a way for her to reconnect with you. Sometimes it is easier to reconnect in a group of people than one-on-one. Celebrating the birth of her grandkids would be something to share with you. Attending the shower with this point of view would be a lot better than any other. It is worth a try if you would like to renew your friendship with her.

Best wishes.