Is it appropriate for me to attend my boyfriend's grandson's birthday party at his ex-wife's home?

by Carol
(Houston, TX)

I have been living with my boyfriend for about 5 months now. His daughter that lives with his ex-wife is giving their grandson a birthday party that will be held at his ex-wife's home. I do feel somewhat strange about attending a party at his ex-wife's home, since this is the home they both shared with both their children for many years. I'm just not sure if my uneasy feelings are justified or not.


Aug 27, 2011
Birthday at Ex-Wife's Home
by: Wendy (Modern Manners and Etiquette)

Thank you for your question.

You pose an interesting situation here. It is definitely understandable that you would feel a little awkward attending a birthday party at the home of your boyfriend's ex-wife.

The best thing for you to do is to bring this up with your boyfriend. It is appropriate for you to talk this through with him. He needs to understand your feelings with this situation. Talking to him can also help you make your decision.

There is no clear cut etiquette for birthday parties involving ex-wives. The best way to approach this is speaking to your boyfriend. As there will always be two families involved with parties and events, you need to know for yourself where you stand and where your comfort levels are.

I hope this helps. Best wishes!