Is it proper to send a thank you note to the bride and mother of the bride?

by Jean
(Tennessee)

I am not a family member, however was included as such. My relationship is, simply put, "significant other" of the bride's father. The father and I have been in this relationship for 22 years.

I found the mother of the bride and her husband to be very gracious in how I was included from seating at church to reception. At no time did I feel insignificant. As a matter of fact all of the family members treated me as though I was "family". And I had never met any of them prior.

This was the first time in years that I had any face to face contact with the ex wife and her husband.

So would it be proper to send them a very personal note ....to say thank you and let them know.

Nov 19, 2011
Well done
by: Wendy (Modern Manners and Etiquette)
I love that you listened to your heart and sent the thank you notes. I think if more of us would do just that, then little-by-little we would all be a lot happier. Thank you for your example!!


Sept 15, 2011
Thanks
by: Jean

My heart and gut told me it was the right thing to do. I just wrote that note and will mail it in just a moment. Thanks for you insight it was really appreciated.

Sept 14, 2011
Sending a thank you note
by: Kevin (Modern Manners and Etiquette)

Would it be appropriate to send a thank you note? Absolutely!!!! Here is why:

Too often in our society, we assume that people know how we feel and we do not take the time to express it. Think about how they will respond to a thank you note that says you appreciate how they treated you even though you are not technically "family."

I highly recommend sending it because it will also solidify the relationship and that pattern will continue on as your relationship continues on.

The investment in time and money spent on sending a thank you note will be paid back 10 times over. People like to be thanked and they will have an even more favorable opinion of you than they already do.

If you haven't guessed it yet, you really should send that note!!!