Is it right to give it back now?

I was married to my husband for 2 years. He was sick, had Hep C, prior to us getting married. It has been 9 years since he passed now. I contacted his sister asking her if she still wanted a stereo, a family heirloom, and she said yes. But she never responded to any of my correspondence prior to this. The last things I remember...she sent me a certified letter...scared me because I was very vulnerable. I talked to her today realizing that nothing has changed. I feel it was a mistake to contact her. I will give her family back the radio, that is where it belongs but should I do it now? I still hurt.


Aug 03, 2011
Grieving
by: Wendy (Modern Manners and Etiquette)

Thank you for your question.

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I can feel how difficult it is for you to have lost someone as special as your husband.

You have made a good choice in contacting his sister about the family heirloom that you have. It sounds like she has not been very open to continuing a relationship with you, and that is unfortunate. We all grieve in different ways, some shut out the world and some invite it in for healing.

As you have already offered to return the stereo, you should do it. This simple act will help you in your healing process. It is something that is weighing on your heart and by taking care of this your heart will feel better.

After you have done this, it will be up to you whether or not you continue to have any correspondence with his sister. If it is not a healthy relationship, then it is best to leave it alone.

I hope that this will help you in your healing journey.