Save the Date/Wedding invitation Question

by Catie
(New Jersey)

Originally my fiance and I thought of doing a traditional wedding with a guest list of 185, but we switched to a destination wedding in which only immediate family, a few relatives and a few friends will be attending. We would like to do a big reception with everyone back at home once we come back from Aruba.

I do not know if I should send out 2 save the date cards, 1 for those who are coming to the ceremony in Aruba and 1 for those attending the big reception back at home. If I do 2 save the date cards, those who will be attending the destination ceremony will receive both cards. Is this how I should do it? Then how should I do the official wedding invitation?

Overall, I am confused on how I should do this. Please help!



Save The Date/Invitation
by: Wendy (Modern Manners and Etiquette)

Thank you for your question! Please forgive the delayed response, we have experienced a death in the family.

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! It sounds like you have planned a wonderful ceremony in a beautiful location.

As for your question. You will need to send out two different Save The Date cards...one for the wedding itself and one for the reception. Instead of sending out two cards for the ones who will be attending the ceremony, include the reception information on the card so that they will have all of the information on one card.

The invitation itself would state that you were married on a certain date in Aruba and you would love for your guests to come and celebrate with you at the reception. What you could do for the ones who will be attending the wedding ceremony in Aruba, include a card that is specific to them with the information about the wedding. That way you do not have to make up two individual invitations.

I hope this has helped and that you have a wonderful wedding!!!

Best Wishes!