Should I give a gift if I never got an invitation to the wedding?

My hair stylist who is also the owner of the salon recently got married. She told me about the wedding in December and she handed me a notebook and asked me to write down my name, address and phone number so that she could send me an invitation. She said they do not want gifts only cash. The wedding was last week and I never got an invitation. I am not surprised that I did not get one because we are not close friends. My question is should I give her a gift if she did not send me an invitation? Also not that this is an issue for me I just wanted to let you know that this is the second marriage for her and her husband. They both have adult children.


Jul 23, 2011
Non-invite gift
by: Wendy (Modern Manners and Etiquette)

Thank you for your question, as it is a good one.

Proper wedding gift etiquette states that you are not obligated to purchase a gift or give money for a wedding you were not invited to.

If you would like to acknowledge the wedding in some way, simply ask her about it at your next appointment. I did this with my hair dresser and she was so happy to share her wonderful day. It was her second marriage as well. We had a great time chatting about it and I was able to let her know that I had thought about her.

I hope this helps you! Best wishes!