Should my ex-husbsand's new wife be honored with flowers at our daughter's wedding?

My ex-husband was remarried a little less than two years ago. Our 28 year old daughter is getting married in Sept. My ex-husband has demanded that his new wife have flowers. Aren't flowers to honor those that have played a special roll in the lives and development of the bride and groom? Is this not disrespectful to me?


Aug 03, 2011
Wedding Flowers
by: Wendy (Modern Manners and Etiquette)

Thank you for your question!

Congratulations on the upcoming wedding for your daughter! Weddings are a fantastic time to celebrate a beautiful couple and the beginning of their journey together.

Planning a wedding can be a wonderful, yet stressful time in our lives. It is so hard to stay happy and make everyone happy all at the same time. Flowers are not exempt from planning stresses.

Wedding flowers have traditionally been given to the parents of the bride and groom and all who are involved in the wedding party. Corsages have been the most popular for the mothers and other special female guests.

It is not unheard of for the mother and stepmother to wear corsages at weddings. Sometimes the corsages are made a little bit differently to distinguish between the two.

The most important person in the wedding right now is your daughter (and her fiance of course). It is important to look at the situation and ask yourself if it truly matters. Flowers are flowers, however a happy bride is an amazing gift.

Best wishes.