What in-laws get invited?

Our son is married. We live in close proximity to his mother-in-law, brother-in-law and sister-in-law. They have spent some holidays mainly Christmas Eve and an occasional Thanksgiving for dessert with us in the 4 years of courtship and married life. They have a son who will be part of the wedding party. We only socialize on select holidays and rare occasions, birthdays and such. Who in my son's extended family should be invited?


Aug 02, 2011
In-Law Invitation
by: Wendy (Modern Manners and Etiquette)

Thank you for your question.

I am assuming you have an upcoming wedding, as you spoke briefly about the wedding party.

Wedding invitations are dictated by a few guidelines. Close family and friends are always at the top of the list. After that, it is whom you really would love to share the celebration of the wedding with.

Another key factor in wedding invitations is the budget. If you can only afford a certain number, and that has been filled with your close family and friends list, then it isn't a question of who.

When it comes down to it, there isn't a steadfast rule of inviting in-laws to a family wedding. We did not invite any of my brothers' in-laws to our wedding, even though it was the same situation that you are in. We had shared desserts, dinners, and so forth with them. Yet, my relationship was not directly with them, it was with my parents.

If they have a family member that will be involved with the wedding party, then they most definitely should receive an invitation.

Best wishes with your wedding and many happy memories.