When sending an announcement or invitation is there a tactful way to request that no gifts be given to the Bride and Groom

by Clair
(Incline Village NV/Bethesday MD)

We are both older and each has previously been married. We are not having a wedding but a celebration both before (on the east coast) and after (on the west coast) to include both families. The only 2 at the actual wedding will be the Bride and Groom. Although we will be happy to entertain our family and friends we would both be more comfortable if there were no gifts.


Mar 22, 2011
Gifts On A Second Wedding
by: Kevin (Modern Manners And Etiquette)

This is a great question. It is tacky to mention anything about gifts on the invitations, even if you are asking them to NOT bring a gift. It is poor etiquette to use the invitation to talk about the gifts.

The proper way to handle this issue is either through word of mouth, or through a wedding website (the website is preferred). On the invitation, you can refer them to the website for more information and it is completely acceptable to state that gifts are not necessary.

The website is also a great way to share your love story since you want to have a celebration on the East and West coast.

Congratulations on the wedding!